Someone who is working with their mind to stretch the awareness with the motivation to see what is fundamentally true, that intention goes along way. You become more and more fearless. You realize who you are, that nothing can really hurt you, so you extend yourself out.
We don’t even know what concepts are, what thoughts are. We know what thoughts do, they drive us crazy. When something triggers a feeling and we rummage through concepts to explain why something happens, what it is and what it’s about, constant chatter that is going in circles, you leave the original situation an opt for something else. Let concepts arise in your mind-stream in or with the awareness. You don’t have to stop thinking, but if you want to see the entire situation, you are probably going to need spiritual path.
Dispute is a manifestation of confusion. When you feel the very texture of irritation, go there. Yield is when you feel things start to tighten up in any way against someone else, against yourself, against anything….and I rarely use this word but it fits here…surrender. One of the most important acts of generosity is to give someone your attention. When I say yield, it’s just them.
What’s right under your nose is the truth. Whatever is arising with you, actually look at that without adding onto it. Keep returning to just this. Insist.
If you are interested in strengthening your awareness about why you keep functioning in a certain way or running into obstacles, it may be a good idea to look at what you are actually experiencing right when you are experiencing it rather than abandoning feelings by explaining, blaming or questioning. Any kind of adding is a form of materialism.