Meet them where they’re at instead of where you think they’re at. This includes others as well as your own thought patterns.
To say all evidence is partial is a way to help us look more closely at anything that’s occurring that seems to be implying something else and then we jump to conclusions. Hold still and observe what arises and give it the benefit of the doubt. There is nothing else.
Sokuzan talks about several lines in Dogen’s Genjokoan: To study the self is to forget the self. To forget the self is to be actualized by the myriad things. When actualized by myriad things, your body and mind as well as bodies and minds of others drop away.
Apologies are valuable if you accidentally hurt someone or make a mistake. It’s a simple transaction. But if you are looking for some sort of payback, this is suspicious. Look very closely at the intention around apologies. This needs to come from the awareness process, not the thinking process.
Sokuzan has an open interview with members of the Sangha.