Yogacara, one of the two main schools of Mahayana Buddhism, is often referred to as the “Mind Only” school. This is not to say that anything outside the mind is unreal. It is intended to help you see that what you are experiencing is coming to you in some form of perception in consciousness, based on the six senses and the assumption of a separate self. When there is transformation at the basis of consciousness, that everything is dependently arisen is fundamentally seen. There is no separate self to be found anywhere.
Don’t settle for the concept of “Being in the Now”. Thinking that you’re present is not presence. Presence is more like an absence. It is not something that you practice, it is something you are. Genuine presence is without a self, which doesn’t mean the self goes away.
Sokuzan suggests to “listen, respond, and limit” when talking with family. Listening is the practice of generosity in receiving what is being said and giving your attention. Respond in order to be with them, respecting their karma. Limit your interaction so that when you’re there, you are present with them.
Put self-centeredness on a diet by staying in your senses; just hear, just see, just smell, just taste, just feel, and even just think and add nothing to it so that what you receive does not become food for your self-centeredness.
Confidence based on causes and conditions will fade. Complete confidence is both confidence and lack of confidence at the same time where thoughts and emotions are free to come and go. Prioritize awareness. Hold your seat and make friends with what comes and goes through the practice of meditation.