Dana, the Sanskrit word generosity, is the practice of giving your attention and receiving what arises. When thoughts arise in the mind or with what others are saying to you, give it your attention and just receive, even if it is in the form of negativity. The way we work with that is in the negativity itself, not separate. It takes some courage to just receive and not create the one who is against or wants to fix the negativity. If your awareness is powerful, you my watch yourself hold still or you may go into action without an agenda. No one is wrong that needs to be corrected. This is the practice of generosity.
Sokuzan suggests to “listen, respond, and limit” when talking with family. Listening is the practice of generosity in receiving what is being said and giving your attention. Respond in order to be with them, respecting their karma. Limit your interaction so that when you’re there, you are present with them.